The art of Threesomes: the 10 questions to ask before having a threesome

Surrounded by two passive to be the center of attention, a couple to have the feeling of being irresistible, or two assets to enjoy twice as much: the threesome is a fantasy widely shared, including the gays. How to prepare (as well as the terrain when you have to convince a spouse)?

You + Me + plus all the others?

With a friend, his regular partner, two strangers, a man / man couple or even a man / woman: the art of Threesomes opens a gap in the vision of the 1 + 1 couple. A threesome can be a kiss to three, a small blowjob in the bathroom of a bar, a guest who stays a little longer at home, or an exceptional guest found on an app (or a place of meet). There are as many models of trios as people who dream.

Alone + a couple?

Alone, you find a couple a little welcoming. Make sure of their respective interest for you, that no one feels obliged, that you do not like him enough. And conversely, that both of you really like (or enough).

In couple + a third?

If it occurred to you this idea not at all greedy to invite a third thief, make sure that it is a shared desire (even on the moment) and assumed, that the third on which you set your sights as much to your boyfriend (whether he’s a friend / a sex-friend / your husband) …

Why ? (and why not ?)

Chili in the couple or symbol of a desire to go elsewhere, this is the question. Feel free to demystify your desire with your regular. The desire of another is not necessarily just a desire to “toy boy”, it can also be a desire to multiply the sources of pleasure, without them canceling each other. This is not yet polyamory, because it defines romantic relationships that go beyond the simple carnal relationship. But that may be the sign of a desire to evolve your conception of the couple … or not?

Am I (really) ready?

Are you ready to see your partner doing what he wants with a third party (or this third party, what he wants with him)? Beyond fantasy, reality can be different.
If you are alone, it is certainly easier to get into a relationship. If they themselves asked the right questions before inviting you, it will certainly be a double dose of pleasure … But even customary fact, it is possible that you unwittingly violate their unspoken rules … How to know? Listen to them, ask them if all is well, do not hesitate to speak to make sure of their pleasure, to show them that you also like when they kiss or touch (and more if affinities). The pleasure must be equilateral: shared really by the three people, not that you are completely dedicated by forgetting their link …

Is he ready?

We must talk about it together. Is he ready to see you doing antics with another and love it? Do you want to try new things?

Have we set the rules?

As in any board game, there are rules to set, more or less wide, but it is better that they are clear. No kiss? No sodomy? No limits ? As much knowledge before creating a diplomatic incident that could turn into a nuclear explosion at worst (or better) moment.
With third parties, are you ok on trips and limits too? Are they customary? Have they asked themselves these few questions? To make everyone comfortable, ask them where they set their limits, not just what they like. Do not break a couple for a selfish pleasure …

Where to find partners?

Often, opportunities are like pop-ups that are imposed on you. But you can solicit a third (or a couple) on the apps, or even in your circle of friends … You might even have a couple in sight?

Where to do that?

At home to feel familiar, or on the contrary at home if the unknown excites you more. In the living room to start, after a drink and a little ambiguous discussion, a massage in the room and then … the world is yours!

The checklist?

Wine, massage oil, poppers … and why not a fourth? When there are three …
Be careful, two guys, it’s also twice as risky: think of condoms (of many sizes – you never know), the lubricant and take your PrEP in time according to your custom shot scheme.
It would be so bad that the “Rubik’s ass” turns into “Doctor Maboul”.