BDSM: submissive definition
BDSM is an acronym itself built using 3 associated acronyms: BD for Bondage (attachment technique) and Disciplines, DS for Domination and Submission and finally SM for Sado-Masochist.
In practice, the BDSM now includes other practices, which are not included in its acronym.
The Dominant and the Submissive
A Dominant can be defined as someone with good leadership skills. Capable of both being hard and inflexible when he must punish his or her submissive, but also gentle and affectionate when he (she) deserves to be rewarded. The ‘Soumise’ must obey the rules of the Dominant as well as satisfy his needs and desires. The relationship that will link Dominant (e) and Soumis (e) must be consensual and each of the protagonists will have to enjoy the role they will hold otherwise, it is no longer BDSM …
We also use the terms Master and Slave in the BDSM, which adds a notion of belonging and their relationship is materialized by the collar that must wear the Slave but in practice many Submit also wear it …
A relationship based on role play
The relationship can be classified into several levels according to its commitment over time, from the simple parenthesis delimiting a BDSM session to a permanent relationship 24/24. Here, we will only talk about short relationships, the time of a game …
Those who occasionally practice these games notice that they are beneficial to the sexual fulfillment of partners when compared to those of a couple of traditional sexuality (called “vanilla relationship” in the middle).
All sex combinations are practiced
The roles of Dominant or Submissive can be played indifferently by men or women and all combinations of sex are practiced. Dominant-submissive games are often played in pairs and with more or less balanced offers and demands, the same is not true of dominant-subject relationships where the number of ‘Domina’ is much lower than the male demand for sex. submission role. The dominant-subject combination is also practiced while that of the dominant-subject is much rarer.
The different types of practices
The BDSM practices are integrated in the framework of ‘games’ for consenting adults who can take the role of Dominant or Submitted (or both in an alternating way, one speaks then of ‘partner’ switch). The practices used in games can be physical but also psychological and are also a mix of both in the majority of cases.
The physical practices can be materialized by constraints and corporal punishments that can be transposed into well-administered enjoyment and if the submissive is confident enough to let go completely, from the small spanking to much harsher abuse …
Psychological practices, meanwhile, appeal to fantasies specific to each person materialized by scenarios developed by the dominant and inflicted on the subject (humiliation, enslavement, …)
Finally, purely sexual relations can be banned in the strict form of BDSM or allowed, in more moderate forms, giving free rein to more lustful games.
A BDSM session
As you can see, a BDSM session can take many forms depending on the practices you have chosen, the number of partners and their respective roles. The more experienced will be able to stage these practices by linking them judiciously to raise the excitement gradually and create a game where all the partners will find their pleasure.
The game’s rules
Before playing, rules should be established to define the different types of mutually accepted practices during a session. Similarly it is essential to define together a safeword or a gesture that would mean “pause” if the turn of the game exceeded the limit of one of the partners.
These rules define the boundaries that must not be crossed and can be tacit or explicit, written in a contract formalized in writing and co-signed by the partners (as in “50 shades of Grey” …).
Agreeing rules, establishes a relationship of trust between partners and promotes a letting go essential to enjoy the pleasures of BDSM.
We do not forget the security
Each practice has its specific risks, however, there is a common safety rule for all practices, which is to ensure that all participants in a BDSM session have not consumed an abnormal amount of alcohol or absorbed drugs or psychoactive drugs.
This is valid for the dominant so that he remains master of the situation and can be able to decide if the game becomes dangerous, as for the subject whose feelings of pain could be altered at the risk of injury without being aware.